What does being connected mean to you? Do you speak with family and friends a few times a week? Do you speak to strangers everyday? When you buy groceries, do you look at the cashier in the eyes and genuinely acknowledge them as a person? What about random people you pass by during your day? Do you look them in the eyes and acknowledge them? Or do you quickly look away and pretend they don't exist?
That's what I used to do when I was disconnected. I would walk by people, or be somewhere and completely keep my head down. I pretended to be completely oblivious of other human beings around me. Why would I ever do that?!
There are many reasons I used to do that. I was insecure. I was scared of rejection. It hurts to be rejected. But I realized that I'm not being rejected by other people, but that other people are scared of opening up and are fearful being vulnerable. Because if they are vulnerable, they risk being hurt. And nobody wants to be hurt. When I realized this about myself, I saw it in other people. I didn't open up for fear of being rejected by others. It's a vicious cycle.
As I continue to grow as a person I continue to realize personal truths about my life and the way I'm being. The more I face my personal truths and accept the hard truth, the more I grow as a person and move forward in my life. I've become so free from situations that used to hold me back in life. This new approach has created so many wonderful new opportunities and relationships, as well as strengthen old relationships with friends and family.
Now that I'm "living my stretch," which is a life changing experience I had at MITT Training, I'm more open hearted and vulnerable than ever. I've learned that this is true strength. Being open and vulnerable, not being afraid of having my heart broken, has created a deeper connection with all people I meet. I am truly present and connected with life and everyone and everything in it. I've never felt so connected to the ones I love and every person on earth by this new way of being,
I've had the gift of becoming closer to the ones I've always held close and loved. I've also created countless new, beautiful relationships. It's brought me more clients, more opportunities, and so many moments of joy. And I'm just getting started. Being open and vulnerable creates a true connection between us as human beings. To me, this is what life is about. It's hard to do, because being vulnerable is scary as hell. But living with strength and courage to be open hearted and vulnerable is a million times better than being disconnected and in the small world in my head I used to be in.
I invite you to open you heart and show vulnerability to yourself and others, I promise you will never want to live any other way.