Have you ever been directly talking to someone only to watch them stare off into space? You can literally see every word that comes out of your mouth, go in one of their ears and out of the other. How did that make you feel? Did you feel understood? Did you feel that that person cared about you and what you have to say? Or did you feel as if you didn't matter and they obviously had something more important to do? What effect does that have on the relationship with the person with whom you are communicating?
We all get distracted throughout the day by a myriad of things. Work, family, friends, plans for later, awesome blog posts =). However, if you find yourself feeling as if the day flys by, your life is out of control, and you are constantly distracted, I invite you to take some time to ground yourself and be present.
But what does that mean...being present? To me, being present means showing up in every moment and not living in the past or the future. I do my best to not replay events in my mind from the past, or worry about what may or may not happen in the future. Life is right now.
I find that if I worry about things that happened when I was young, a year ago, last week, or even earlier in the day, I miss out on what's happening right now. And life, is right now. It already happened yesterday, but it may not happen tomorrow. And if you are living in the past or thinking about the future too much, you are missing what living is about!
There are two brilliant quotes that resonate with me that come to mind to best illustrate this: "Depression is for people who dwell in the past, anxiety is for people who live in the future, but peace is for people who live in the present." The other quote is from an all time favorite movie, "Life moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around every once in a while, you could miss it." Points for you if you know which movie that is from.
Being present and showing up are things that I am completely committed to. Committing to this for myself and others has been one of the most powerful and impactful acts I've done. I am committed to showing up as a friend, a coach, brother, son, and person. This means that when I say I'm going to do something I'm going to do it. I'm committed to being fully present and showing up for the people in my life that matter, and for myself. I'm committed to doing the things I say for myself to continue to create my dreams and vision. It's not easy, but it's so worth it.
When I find myself out of it and not being present I use these tools to help me get back to the moment and back to life!
1) Meditation - I meditate for 20 minutes every day. I do this to be in silence with myself so that when everything is going crazy around me, I'm still in a calm peaceful inner space and I can be present and do what needs to be done.
2) Deep breathing - When I find myself thinking about the past or future, I take 5 deep, 5 second breaths. I focus entirely on the feeling of the air going in and out of my lungs. It's amazing how effective this simple tool is at relieving stress.
3) Self Care - I make sure I get adequate rest and eat great food. I notice that if I'm not at my best physically, I get distracted easily by hunger, or not having enough energy.
Try these out and let me know in the comments if they help. If you enjoyed this article or know someone that would benefit from it, please share. If you have any questions or are interested in coaching please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Sending love and light to you and yours, thank you for reading my article! Namaste!